Dictionary.com defines “Audacity” as:
- boldness or daring, especially with confident or arrogant disregard for personal safety, conventional thought, or other restrictions.
When I think about “audacity”, I think: life goals.
From my personal experience, I have noticed that one of my biggest limiting factors is my own mind. It’s so much easier to use an excuse you created than to actually commit the action that you so fearfully backed out of.. Or is it?
Obviously your excuse is less rewarding, but is it even easier? Over time, I have come to realize that creating the excuse is easy, but living with that decision definitely is not. I very much don’t enjoy using the word “regret” (because who wants that in their life), so I’ll instead choose “disappointment” as my word choice. How often have you made an excuse for not doing something, and been disappointed that you didn’t listen to your heart, as a result? You have that inner desire for a reason, sometimes it’s good to quiet everything else down, and listen to what it has to say.
Now back to audacity; Being audacious is extremely rewarding in ways that I couldn’t even possibly have predicted. First off, if you’ve never really put yourself out there taking bold risks, it’s hard to imagine what kind of results will start turning up. That’s why I decided to give it a try.
Although I love the definition, I would remove the word “arrogant” because I don’t find that to be very much of a positive quality. However, using confidence to be bold or daring in a way that may put myself in harms way (OR may not), that goes against conventional thought, and breaking free of restrictions.. is essentially a dream of all dreams. These risks are the ones that open doors. Be daring, or let opportunities pass.
What are your restrictions? Are they societal rules? Are they your addictions/vices? The lack of money, confidence, life purpose?
Get to the bottom of it, define what’s holding you back, embrace a fearless mentality, and really make this life your own.
First you need to hype yourself up (in your head) even if you have to stretch the truth a bit. Is that lying?
Hmm.. Let’s just call it a self boost. I self boost myself by thinking that I’m financially independent. I’m far from this, but I act as if I have already achieved it. I do this because the things you think about, the Universe sends your way. It’s complicated, but trust me, it works.
Now how is this relevant to my everyday life?
By tricking my mind into thinking that I go to work because I want to instead of because I need to is a healthy transition. It allows myself to be bold. To stick up for my values, and not be pressured to do anything by my employers that I would not want to do (for health reasons, personal beliefs etc.). It’s quite great actually. Before speaking up to my boss or whomever, I tell myself that the worst that can happen is that I’ll get fired. If I’m okay with that (which I always am), then I follow through. I’m not going to allow a job to force me to do things that I don’t believe in just because they give me a paycheck. After all, if they don’t want me, someone else will.
Ironically, I never get fired. I’m not disappointed, but I am surprised by what actually happens. My voice is not only heard, but things change. Progress is made. On top of all that (icing on the cake if you will), they respect me more for standing up for myself. I mean, who would have thought?
Let’s say you do get fired; Some things are a blessing in disguise because there are plenty of opportunities out there. Maybe you just got let go from a position just to be introduced to the job of your dreams. Do what I do and try out a job sampler.
Sign me up! This is another example of how you can be audacious, and if they don’t want you, someone else will. It’s perfect.
Be bold. Avoid the small talk. Determine their values, and stop wasting your life on beating around the bush. It’s like your own form of express dating. They may even appreciate it because they understand your intentions very early on instead of having to try to guess.
Truth is, being audacious will not solve all of your problems. As a matter of fact, it may even create a few here and there. Yet, it will clear up many uncertainties, eliminate the “what ifs”, and finally, it will get yourself clear answers to questions that you may have once been too afraid to ask.
Being audacious gives you the ability to give less fucks towards the insignificant things, and starts letting you focus your time and energy towards things that you really value, the things that deserve your time, and most importantly the people who deserve your presence.
It’s scary at first.. like really scary, but push through it.
Practice and rejection, will soon be your best, and quickest route to a happier you.
Just remember, this is a way for you to take control of your life. Don’t use audacity as an avenue to become like everyone else. This is your life, so be yourself in a world where everyone is trying to be the same. There’s no reason to compare.
Be audacious my friend.
I dare you.
– Jacob Pearson